Energy exchange

This exercise is for balancing out energy levels between partners when e.g. one partner has too much energy and the other doesn’t have enough. This technique will also help you calm down and feel balanced when one or both of you are tense, overexcited or emotional.

Men often have a build-up of energy in their solar plexus. Women can use this to build up energy in their stomach. The same goes the other way round; women can share their energy with their man when they have too much in their stomach, and their man is lacking in energy.

Description

Option 1: the woman lies down with her hands resting by her sides. The man lies on top of her and tightly grasps her hands, squeezing her fingers in his hands. They begin to breathe in unison, taking deep breaths in and out. Their breathing is calm, even, deep and comes from the stomach. In this case the man gives away energy and the woman receives energy.

Option 2: the woman lies on top of the man, grasps his hands and squeezes his fingers. They also breathe in unison. Energy goes from woman to man.

This technique can also be used to exchange different types of energy and to become more familiar with your partner’s energy – with its colour and aroma.

Joint dreaming

This technique is carried out when we are asleep. What is it for?

Often when we are in waking life we cannot truly feel our partner because our thoughts, behavioral programs and judgments are in the way. And sometimes we simply can’t hear body language.

When we are asleep our body relaxes, our mind calms down and lets go of its control. We become more honest with each other, more capable understanding the person next to us and connecting with them and their energy without encountering any hindrance from masks worn in daily life.

I recommend these exercises for couples to develop a deeper understanding of each other and join their energies. At a more advanced level, partners are able to consciously meet each other in their dreams and dream the same dreams.

The practice begins with both partners lying down in preparation for sleep… But not just in any way. I will describe one of these poses. Both partners lie down on their sides with their backs to each other, legs slightly bent and feet, lower back and sacrum area touching. They tune into each other’s breathing and begin breathing in unison, either breathing in and out together, or one partner breathing in while the other breathes out and vice versa.

‘Joint dreaming’ exercise

Bridge between hearts

Both partners sit facing each other. They look into their eyes, place their left hand on their heart and their right hand on their partner’s heart. They visualize their hearts opening up to each other, flourishing like flowers and opening their petals to the sun in the name of Love. They imagine a pink ray going from one partner’s heart to the other’s heart and a heart connection forming between them. This is very important since most couples are only connected through their sexual or intellectual centres, while the heart remains closed…

Bridge between hearts

Partners direct their love, tenderness, affection and elevated feelings to each other through this bridge between hearts. They express and transmit them with the help of deep breathing and eye contact. No words, just breathing.

Nowadays words are like drawings in the sand; the wind blows and they disappear. Words are forgotten and not valued by people. Maybe nowadays there are simply too many words…

So come back to the source of Love’s knowledge, learn to communicate with your loved one through breath and the heart and the uncharted world of man will open itself up to you more deeply than if you were simply to talk to him. And the world of woman will open up for man…