The second reason – the fear of appearing before his man in such a frank form, although the woman will willingly give you a blowjob. Here we all need to somehow convey that the labia can look different, as well as the whole body. It's just a peculiarity of human structure, that's all it is. There is no “right” and “wrong” about exactly how the genitals look (unless we're talking about a disease, of course).

The third reason is the fear that their genitals aren't clean and foul smelling enough for this manipulation right now.

The usual shower before caressing easily solves this problem. And in general, Mother Nature has ordered so that the aroma of her vagina excites your sense of smell in the most pleasant way, creating and increasing arousal, inviting to mating. If this effect is absent, something is going wrong. The snag could be as much about her as it is about you.

If your partner not only maintains hygiene but also regularly visits a gynecologist to check for infections, then the problem is in you. More specifically, your perception of that particular girl. It is very likely that you simply do not love her enough, as the scent of the beloved cannot leave a man indifferent. Physical rejection of her odor is a signal that soon you will begin to irritate and other little things, like her remarks, driving style, clothes and so on. There's reason to wonder.

Female intimate odor is not a nasty odor. A vagina smells like a healthy vagina. This is normal and natural.

The fourth reason is, unfortunately, your complete profanity about oral caresses. Once convinced that you do not know much about it, a woman will rarely agree to give it another chance. Unless you come to her with this book.

And that's totally fair! Okay, if you were just trying to please there and did everything tender and caring, but for some reason you didn't bring her to orgasm… that's okay, there may still be more than one chance, she'll just see it as part of the petting. It's much worse if you persist in trying to bring her to orgasm without any idea how things work. Roughly rubbing the clitoris, scratching with nails and stubble, climbing in there with dirty hands, panting, drooling on the bed, etc. Then it turns into the torture of the Inquisition with the only desire to end it all as soon as possible and not do it again. Ever again.

Or you, again due to ignorance, tried there for a couple minutes and that's it, it's done, it's time to move on to your own needs… and she needs more. Why then was it even to start, tease… solid disappointment and, as a consequence, unpleasant experience.

The fifth reason is you're hoping for a “comeback.” If you're reading this standing up, take a seat – many women refuse cunnilingus so that they have the legal right to not give you a blowjob. She doesn't want it, she doesn't like it. A blow job is so unexciting and unmotivating to them that they are readily willing to give it up at the expense of their own pleasure. Now live with it.

By the way, I have an awesome book on the subject, “Fantastic blowjob from A to Z”. After her no blowjob is not terrible.

All of the above reasons for refusal are solved by the usual frank conversation – and teach you can, and wash her before cunnilingus and, over time, learn to fully trust you and relax. And blowjob is cool, if you do it right.

Lovely young ladies, it's high time to realize and accept the fact that if your lover wasn't interested in satisfying you with oral sex, he or she simply wouldn't do it. Cunnilingus is something that is completely natural and is not in any way obscene or embarrassing. It is just one way of foreplay or an exciting aftertaste. Just like you, your partner may enjoy it, he may actually enjoy it – it is his way of expressing his exclusive affection for you. In addition, it makes him feel good to know that his skills are guaranteed to bring you to orgasm. This scenario is quite realistic!