6. This is fun.

The transition to cunnilingus doesn't always happen in total silence in an impenetrably dark room. Often it's more like the beginning of a game – you kind of get up to her, she smiles, you try to get lower, she's both excited and giddy, which she sometimes tries to cover up with careless cheerfulness. In general, before she can't talk anymore about the intercepted excitement, you'll exchange both smiles and remarks and other emotions of a very pleasant nature.

7. Focusing on what's important.

During sex, you are both interested in not just having a good time, but also to experience orgasms – preferably each. And even better – at the same time. Therefore, cunnilingus, as foreplay, allows a man to fully feel all the spice of what is happening, to focus on the girl to relax her, set her up for the right mood and do everything right so that she gets pleasure in any case. Being respectful and attentive to her needs allows a man to better focus on the girl not as a sexual object, but as a person.

8. You're getting closer.

Cunnilingus is the least likely thing to be done to a woman you don't know well or one with whom the connection is superficial, unpromising. Not at all! A man only turns to oral caresses when the girl is really interesting, important and close to him. And the partner is perfectly aware of this. That is why during cunnilingus a special, unlike anything else, intimate and trusting connection is formed between two people.

9. There is a possibility of “repayment”.

Few men are able to refuse a blowjob to a girl who really likes him. Because a good blowjob – it's beautiful! This is also the case with cunnilingus – giving a girl oral pleasure, a man subconsciously, and maybe not, expects that he will someday please in a similar way. And it is worth noting that such expectations are rarely in vain. The principle is simple and clear: good cunnilingus = good blowjob.

However, despite the fact that in most cases cunnilingus likes both sides of the process, quite often cunnies are refused, both men and women.

Why is that?

Many people feel the most real discomfort at the suggestion of cunnilingus: morally or physically, due to upbringing, religious or other views. Historically, oral sex, including cunnilingus, has been condemned by different cultures and religions. For centuries, the idea that it was unnatural and contrary to divine laws was preached. It was believed that sexual contact through the mouth was not part of the reproductive act, but an extremely perverted activity.

Why do women refuse?

Statistically, cunnilingus is refused more often by women than by men, to the complete incomprehension of those of the latter who enthusiastically accept oral caresses. Therefore, scientists conducted surveys of thousands of ladies to clarify the reasons for the disappointing results. The picture turned out to be as follows. For a holistic understanding, data from other sources is also attached here.

One of the main reasons why women refuse such oral caresses is due to their psychological attitudes and barriers that do not allow them to fully relax and trust their partner. This may be due to upbringing, religion, modesty, or other personal problems. Many women have the attitude that the genitals are something inadmissible for such close contact, such as cunnilingus, and therefore such sexual manifestations can drive her into a frank stupor. It is necessary to talk, to develop trust and a different angle of perception of such a delicate topic.