A holistic view of the problems of euthanasia implies an understanding of both poles: on the one hand, we can say that this is an escape from life – the fear of staying; however, if you look from the other pole, then those who remain are afraid to leave. The same picture is in any opposing views (any fragmentary perception), for example: is the one who leaves or those who do not let go selfish? Is it the one who wants to leave does not understand those who forbid him to do it, or are those who prevent leaving refuse to understand the one who resorts to euthanasia?

In this section we will look at the new psychological support of the dying process (PSDP), which will be useful, as it seems to us, to everyone. The starting position of the one who is next to you at the last stage is, so to speak, without show–offs; it is presence, an existential meeting, authenticity, sincerity, openness. There is no need to teach and broadcast how it would be right and wise to act, and if, for example, you are also scared, tell me about it (if I am sitting next to my mother at the bedside of a dying father, and it hurts me like my mother to admit that he has a few days left to live, then why will "well, nothing, nothing, don't cry mom"?). A close, dear person is passing away, you are experiencing sadness, so have the courage to live this sadness; there is a potential for development in suffering, this is not something that you need to get rid of as soon as possible, this is something that needs to be comprehended.

I remember an episode from working in a boarding house for the elderly and disabled, where people died not infrequently, including those with whom I managed to get close. And more often it happened that they tried to avoid leaving (which can also be understood); and in understanding this, you sit down by the bed and just take a person by the hand, he doesn't say anything, you don't say anything, it lasts less than five minutes, but it's outwardly simple and possibly meaningless for someone it is of great importance and depth.

As in pedagogy, the teacher himself is the tool, he himself is the methodology, so the inner world of a person will work with the accompaniment of dying, nothing special and artificial needs to be done. Do you want to say that "I am near" – say "I am near"; if you sincerely believe that a person goes to the best of worlds – say; I want to believe – say, "I want to believe"; if a person believes that he has lived an empty life and did not have time to do much, did not do it right, and you do not agree with this – "I understand that it seems to you that it did not make much sense, but I cannot agree with this, I would really like to tell you why I think so, you have got an important experience… your living life is sacred… there are higher, spiritual layers of being…". Carefully express yourself, carefully hear the one who is beside you, who is going on his last journey.

A very worthwhile experience of accompanying the dying process is presented in the Zen hospice33, where the approach of respect for the last page of the life path is implemented. Conditions and opportunities have been created in it for deep contact with oneself, one's deadly illness, one's experiences, certain final actions and events; without flight, hiding, a person meets with what is. One of the important rituals (I have not seen this in any other institutions of this type), when a person has left, they do not seek to remove the body as soon as possible and it is better so that no one sees it. On the contrary, he is slowly and respectfully carried out through the garden, where everyone, whether it's someone from the staff or other patients, can come up to say goodbye, say something, express themselves, let's say, in tears.