Scientific research confirms the destructive impact of such frameworks. According to the Journal of Sexual Medicine (2021), more than 60% of people experience anxiety or shame related to their sex life due to social norms. This leads to depression, lower self-esteem, and relationship problems. Shame activates the amygdala, increasing anxiety, while the hippocampus forms long-term associations between sex and fear. The prefrontal cortex, responsible for rational thinking, is suppressed, making a person even more vulnerable to external influence.

The boundaries of "normal" sex don’t protect; they suppress your individuality. They make you doubt your desires, see them as a problem. You’re afraid to ask yourself: "What do I really want?" because you’re used to orienting yourself to standards. Your desires become alien, and you become part of a system that suppresses you.

"Normal" is an illusion. It was invented to control you. Your desires were never abnormal. The abnormality was the fact that someone tried to regulate them. Freeing yourself from these boundaries means reclaiming your right to be yourself.

Control Through Guilt: How This Scheme Works

Guilt is the chain society puts on your freedom. This tool works skillfully and imperceptibly, making you doubt your desires, thoughts, and actions. You feel like you’re doing something wrong even when you’re just trying to be yourself. But who said your desires are wrong? That voice is not yours. It was created by family, school, culture, religion – all those who want to keep you within limits.

At the brain level, guilt triggers a chain reaction. The amygdala, responsible for fear and anxiety, activates as soon as you step outside the "permissible." This triggers a stress response: cortisol, the stress hormone, rises, and the hippocampus records this situation as "dangerous." Over time, your brain starts associating any manifestations of individuality with a threat. The prefrontal cortex, responsible for rational thinking, is suppressed, and you can no longer critically evaluate whether you actually did something wrong. Guilt becomes your automatic reflex every time you try to step out of bounds.

Historically, guilt has been used as a tool of control. Religion has instilled for centuries that desires are sinful. Want more than you’re allowed? Guilty. Deviate from the rules? Guilty. This turned a person into someone dependent on "forgiveness" and "cleansing." Only the religious institution could remove the guilt it imposed. Guilt strengthened power by suppressing people and making them obedient.

Modern culture has perfected this mechanism. Now you’re not told outright that you’re "bad." Instead, ideals are created that you must conform to. Social networks, advertising, media show "ideal" people with "ideal" bodies and "ideal" lives. You look at this and feel you’ll never measure up. You feel ashamed of your body, your desires, that you’re not what you "should" be. And you start trying: work more, buy more, adjust more to standards. But these standards are an illusion. They’re specifically designed so that you always feel not good enough.

Research confirms that chronic guilt destroys a person. According to the Journal of Neuroscience (2020), people who experience constant guilt have a 40% higher level of anxiety and are 30% more likely to suffer from depression. The amygdala in such people operates in a state of heightened activity, and cortisol levels remain consistently high. This makes them vulnerable to external influence and unable to critically assess their condition.